Quick question: Who are the 5 people with whom you surround yourself? Motivational speaker, Jim Rhon, is famously quoted for saying, “We are the average of the five people we spend most of the time with.”
For the lukewarm Christians and for those without a vision, that statement may be of no consequence. But for the Christian visionary who has a clear, personal life vision that statement should make them stop and take inventory of who surrounds them.
You see, whether you like it or not, you are greatly influenced by the people closest to you. They impact your way of thinking, your decision-making, and your self-esteem.
Look at these two verses from Proverbs (MSG):
Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.- Proverbs 13:20
Wise men and women are always learning, always listening to insights.- Proverbs 18:15
So, is it time to be more selective about whom you spend time with? The people closest to you will either slow you down or propel you towards your vision.
Here are 5 things you need to help you make sure you are walking with the wise:
- It’s kind of the “duh” factor, but the number one person you should surround yourself with is Jesus Christ. I’m not talking about just being with Him on Sundays for an hour. It is daily, even hourly, seeking Jesus’ strength, guidance, and support to keep you moving toward your vision. It is gaining His wisdom in His word.
- Create a list of the kind of people you need to be around that will help you achieve a specific part of your vision. Who can keep you accountable? Who can mentor you? Who has the skills and knowledge that can help you? You want to be around other like-minded people- people who demonstrate persistence, resilience, and commitment in their dreams. You want to absorb their way of thinking and decision-making that has helped them to be where you hope to someday be yourself.
- You need a Christian mind weed gardener. Someone who will help you identify the lies of Satan that creep in and create doubt. You need someone who will encourage you when the path to your vision gets difficult. They need to be someone who knows God’s word and can help you hear the voice of truth, love and faithfulness that is our Lord.
- Another wise person you need is a mentor who gives you positive feedback. A mentor/coach who can help you reflect on how far you’ve come, help you see how God has been strategically working, and point out what you are doing right to help you live your vision.
- The last thing you need is someone who many people don’t want, but need if they want to grow and change and live their vision. You need someone who will not only tell you the things you’re doing right, but ALSO tell you what you’re doing wrong. This means you need a humble spirit, a learning spirit and a listening spirit so you can gain insight. In other words, “Just shut up and listen!” Now I have one caveat about this: this person needs to have the knowledge, experience and training in the part of your vision you’re trying to achieve.
For example, if one of my goals is to be able to do a pull-up, I’m going to listen to my Crossfit coach, who does pull-ups herself and has helped others achieve this goal. And when she tells me what I’m doing wrong, I shut up and listen, and I do what she tells me.
Here’s the thing: Jesus knows what you need and who you need to help you live your vision. But first you need to be clear yourself on the kind of wise people you need to surround yourself with, then take it to the Lord in prayer. Boldly ask Him to bring these people into your life. Keep your eyes open and watch how God miraculously finds the right team to help you live your vision!
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This article was written by Katie Black of Contemporary Christian Worldwide Academy (CCWA). Katie is passionate about helping Christians who are ready to challenge their status quo, teach them how to use their faith to create a personal life vision, develop the critical faith- mindset needed to pursue that vision AND craft their “make my dreams happen” roadmap. Her Live Your Vision™ system integrates biblical principles into an organized and structured process, complete with tools and strategies to help Christians stop settling in life and experience the abundant life God intends for them. To download your Free Vision Creation Kit, go to: www.WeAreCCWA.com.